Would a warrior be viewed as a lover today?
The following passages are from the book Iron John: A Book About Men, by Robert Bly. (page 155)
As late as the eighteenth century in Italy, the language of the warrior included images of the lover.
The aikido student and master Terry Dobson, who has thought so many of us the goodness possible inside the warrior, found the passage spoken in 1465 by the French knight, Jean de Brueil:
The chivalric tradition, which sprang up in the European eleventh and twelfth centuries, tried, by drawing on Arabic and Persian sources, to sustain the warrior ideal in cultivated life by modifying it toward elegance, compassion, sacrifice, and partnership-thought.
Battle is a joyous thing. We love each other so much in battle. If we see that our cause is just and our kinsmen fight boldly, tears come to our eyes. A sweet joy rises in our hearts, in the feeling of our honest loyalty to each other; and seeing our friend so bravely exposing his body to danger in order to fulfill the commandment of our Creator, we resolve to go forward and die or live with him on account of love. This brings such delight that anyone who has not felt it cannot say how wonderful it is. Do you think someone who feels this is afraid of death? Not in the least! He is so strengthened, so delighted, that he does not know where he is. Truly, he fears nothing in the world!